unplanned pregnancy?
know your options

know your options

Before making any decisions, it’s important for you to gather as much information as possible. This means more than just reading through a variety of websites or calling the first 800 number that pops up on your internet search. TruAdopt will connect you with the real­time support and resources you need to make an informed decision. This means having a chance to speak one-on-one to other women who have faced unplanned pregnancies and to a trained counselor who can help you consider your options. If you live in California, we’ll meet with you in person. If not, we will check ­in via Skype, FaceTime or the good old­ fashioned telephone. We work with expectant parents all over the country and partner with professionals near you who are available to help.

Let’s face it, when you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, there are no easy answers. This decision will likely be one of the most difficult you make in your entire life. That’s why it’s vital that you get the support you need now to make the right decision for you and your child.

So What Are Those Options?

While abortion is a readily available option, it’s not the quick fix some women hope it will be. The guilt and regret that often follows an abortion may persist lifelong. A woman often chooses abortion because she feels trapped and doesn’t see any other way out of the situation. As author Frederica Matthewes Green wrote, “No one wants an abortion as she wants an ice­ cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal, caught in a trap, wants to gnaw off its own leg.” When asked why they are choosing adoption, many of the women we have worked with shared that they had a previous abortion and don’t want to repeat the experience.


You may decide that parenting is the right decision for you, but you owe it to yourself and your baby to be well­ informed about what that means.
Here are some questions to consider:

  • Are you equipped to meet the challenges of single parenting?
  • Do you have the emotional and financial resources necessary to care for a child? If not, are there people in your community (family, church, friends, support organizations) who could help fill in the gaps for you? Most states offer public assistance and subsidized childcare for single parents.
  • Is co­-parenting with the baby’s father an option? Even if you are no longer in a relationship, are you able to work together to create a stable and loving home for your child?
  • Could relationship counseling help?
  • Do either of you struggle with substance abuse issues or other mental or physical challenges that would limit your ability to successfully parent?
  • If abortion or parenting are not workable options, do you have any family members who are willing to help you raise your child?

Just like abortion and parenting, adoption is not an easy solution to an unintended pregnancy, but sometimes it’s the one that makes the most sense. Although adoption involves a great deal of sacrifice, many expectant parents choose adoption because they believe it is the option that will give their child the best chance in life. Birth mothers often experience emotional pain of the loss of their child for years afterward; accordingly, adoption should not be presented to expectant parents as a happy “win­-win” solution, free from long-term challenges. It is not. But when a woman is facing an unintended pregnancy, there’s no such thing as an easy out.
Here are some questions to consider:

  • Is it important to you that your child be raised in a two-­parent family?
  • Is it important to you that your child have the opportunities and stability that you are currently unable to provide?
  • Modern adoption gives an expectant parent the opportunity to place her child with a family who desires an ongoing relationship. Recent research shows that that when a birthmother is able to be even a small part of her child’s life, her feelings of loss are significantly reduced. An ongoing relationship, even contact consisting only of emails or phone calls can have a significant positive impact on both the child and the birthparent. If a child is told from the beginning about his or her birth parents and adoption story, the “shroud of secrecy” is lifted and replaced with compassion and honesty.
  • You may decide that you would rather not have ongoing contact with your child. This is typically referred to as a closed adoption. If so, we will work with you to find an adoptive family that also wants to have their adoption closed.
  • If you decide that adoption is the best choice for your unborn baby, many other decisions will follow. From choosing a family, to deciding whether you want to remain in contact with the family as your child grows up, there’s a lot to consider. TruAdopt is here to help.

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Schedule an appointment with Jill or Celeste to talk about your options.

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Celeste asked me what I was looking for in a family for my baby boy and didn’t stop giving me options until I knew I had found the right couple. She encouraged me to get to know the family and to spend time with my son at the hospital. I was so scared about how it was all going to work, but Celeste kept talking me through it (over and over and over again!) until I finally felt comfortable.



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