birth mother resources

list of resources

Dear Expectant Mother,
Legal representation is just one of the many factors in supporting your decision of adoption. We’ve done our best to compile a hand-picked list of trustworthy resources to connect you with support groups and individuals who are on this journey with you, or who just want to listen, support, and encourage you.

Certified Therapists
  1. Robyn Harrod, MSW, LCSW
    Number: (213) 262-5523
    Email: harrodrobyn@gmail.com
    Website Link: http://www.robynharrod.com
  2. Michelle Harwell, LMFT
    Number: (626) 382-8005
    Website Link: http://www.michelleharwelltherapy.com/#home
  3. Jessica Foster, LMFT
    Number: (714) 868-5955
    Website Link: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Jessica_Foster_LMFT_Santa+Ana_California_268976
  4. Lesli Johnson, LMFT
    Number: (310) 614-1867
    Email: lesliajohnson@gmail.com
    Website Link: http://leslijohnson.com
Birth Mother Coach
  1. Michelle Dettman, Certified Life Coach
    Founder and Director of Adoption Center of Hope
    Number: (951) 304-0888
    Email: michelle@adoptioncenterofhope.com
    Website Link: http://adoptioncenterofhope.com
Options Counseling and Other Support and Medical Services
  1. Claris Health
    Locations: West LA & Inglewood, CA
    Description: Claris Health is your first stop if…you have questions about an unintended pregnancy, if you want to get tested for an STD/STI, if there’s uncertainty around all of your pregnancy or sexual health options, and/or if you’re searching for quality care in Los Angeles. Claris Health provides medical, counseling, and mentoring support.
    Website Link: https://www.clarishealth.org
    Number: West LA—(310) 268-8400; Inglewood—(323) 299-9977
  2. Women’s Pregnancy Care Clinic
    Locations: Pasadena & Whittier, CA
    Description: Provides free and confidential services including pregnancy tests and verifications, obstetrical limited ultrasounds, limited STI testing and different support groups and programs for parenting, post-abortion, etc.
    Website Link: http://www.pregnancycareclinic.net
    Number: Pasadena—(626) 440-9400; Whittier—(562) 902-2273
  3. Los Angeles Pregnancy Services
    Locations: Los Angeles and Huntington Park, CA
    Description: Pregnancy offers excitement and sometimes fear. If you are experiencing a difficult time in your life and are contemplating your options, we are here for you. We have served thousands of women in your situation. You are not alone. All appointments are free and confidential.
    Website Link: http://www.lapregnancyservices.org
    Number: LA—(213) 382-5643; Huntington Park—(323) 583-5848
Birth Mother Support Groups—National
  1. Three Strands, Inc.
    Description: Three Strands exists to love, serve and lock arms with a birth mom through a community of birth moms, adoptive moms, and older adopted children. They provide a community of support and begin with the delivery of Three Strands Bags to the hospital!
    Website Link: http://www.threestrandsinc.org
    Number: (470) 202-8848
    Email: threestrandsinfo@gmail.com
  2. Birth Mother Baskets
    Description: We believe post-placement support is vital for birth moms! Our BirthMomFriend (BMF) program is our team of certified birth mothers who have been in the adoption industry for years, educating, supporting and speaking out about positive adoption. Our BMF’s are here to support, encourage, listen and advocate for our birth parents’ post-placement. We do this by offering online support groups, birth mom only Google Hang Outs, or our Birth Mother Baskets birth mom only Facebook Group and birth mom retreats.
    Website Link: http://www.birthmotherbaskets.org
  3. Embrace Grace
    Description: Embrace Grace, Inc. is a non-profit organization formed for the purpose of providing emotional, practical and spiritual support for single, young women and their families who find themselves in an unintended pregnancy. The primary goal of Embrace Grace is to empower churches across the nation to be a safe and non-judging place for the girls to run to when they find out they are pregnant, instead of the last place they are welcomed because of shame and guilt. The support groups they offer are held in numerous states and can be found on their website.
    Website Link: http://embracegrace.com
    Number: (817) 755-8484
    Email: info@embracegrace.com
    Currently serving: 42 states and 5 countries
  4. Birthmom Buds
    Description: BMB is an organization and website that provides peer counseling, support, encouragement and friendship to birth moms as well as pregnant women considering adoption.
    Website Link: http://birthmombuds.com
    Number: 1 (855) 469-2283
    Email: birthmombuds@gmail.com
  5. Concerned United Birth Parents
    Description: CUB is the only national organization focused on birth parents healing through retreats, support groups, and adoption reform.
    Website Link: http://www.cubirthparents.org
    Number: (800) 822-2777
  6. Brave Love
    Description: Brave Love is a national, not-for-profit public charity organization that exists to change the perception of adoption through honest, informative and hopeful communication that conveys the bravery of birth mothers. They believe birth mothers are heroes and adoption can be a beautiful thing. The website offers support through adoption education and numerous video testimonials.
    Website Link: http://www.bravelove.org
    Email: info@bravelove.org
    Support Groups currently located in: OK, AZ, AL, TX, PA, KS, VA
Birth Mother Support Groups—State/Region Specific
Midwest Region:
  1. On Your Feet Foundation – Evanston, Illinois (Midwest Branch)
    Description: OYFF honors and values the choice birth parents have made to place their children for adoption, helps birth parents to become self-sufficient, and provides monetary support and community after placement. You can apply for assistance through their website.
    Website Link: http://oyff.org
    Number: (224) 858-6933
    Email: info@onyourfeetmidwest.org
Southwest Region:
  1. Birth Mother Bridge Ministries
    Description: BBM provides opportunities for birth mothers to network with other birth mothers through weekend retreats, mentoring and counseling referrals. They want birth mothers to know and trust that they are cared for after the placement of their child.
    Website Link: http://www.birthmotherbridgeministries.com
    Email: birthmotherbridge@yahoo.com
    Areas Served: TX—Permian Basin, Lubbock, Austin/San Antonio, Amarillo, Dallas/Ft. Worth
Western Region:
  1. On Your Feet Foundation – Northern California
    Description: OYFF honors and values the choice birth parents have made to place their children for adoption, helps birth parents to become self-sufficient, and provides monetary support and community after placement. You can apply for assistance through their website.
    Website Link: http://onyourfeetca.org
    Number: (415) 513-5010
    Email: info@onyourfeetca.org
  2. Linked Thru Love
    Description: For several years, Linked Thru Love has devoted its energy to passionately advocating Birth Moms, in their 3-way connection along with the Child placed and Adoptive Mother, in the world today. The mission and vision of Linked Thru Love is to elevate birth moms beyond guilt and shame to a place of honor by helping them realize their value in the adoption triad.
    Website Link: http://www.linkedthrulove.org
    Number: (729) 446-8198
    Currently serving: CO
Retreats
  1. Birthmom Buds – Annual Retreat
    Description: Each year, BirthMom Buds hosts an annual retreat just for birth moms. Our retreat weekend is an amazing time to bond with other birth mothers. There are lots of opportunities to share your story with other birth mothers but there is also some structured time for breakout sessions, speakers from the adoption triad, a candle light ceremony, and more!
    Website Link: http://birthmombuds.com/support/annual-retreat/
  2. Concerned United Birth Parents
    Description: The CUB Retreat is a unique experience for birth parents, adoptees, adoptive parents and others affected by adoption. There are always interesting and insightful speakers, both professional and those speaking from the heart about their own experiences with adoption. There will be great entertainment and lots of laughs as well as tears. If you have never met a birth parent, or perhaps never met another birth parent in person, the retreat is a wonderful opportunity to connect in the real world with online friends, and to put a face to words and voices. If you have attended our retreats before, you already know what a healing experience they can be, for all whose lives have been affected by adoption — and how wonderful it is to meet old and new friends.
    Website Link: http://www.cubirthparents.org/retreats.php
  3. Birth mother Bridge Ministries
    Description: Our weekend retreats provide an opportunity to connect with others who share their experiences as birth mothers.
    Website Link: http://www.birthmotherbridgeministries.com/events/
  4. Birth Mother Baskets
    Description: The best way for a birth mother to heal is to realize she is not alone, she is loved, and she has self-worth. Our Birth Mother Basket Retreats provide just that. We rent out a house, so the birth mothers can be in close proximity. We teach classes on grieving, self-worth, and healing. There are group led discussions and time to talk to others. Our retreat provides a getaway, camaraderie, and healing.
    Website Link: http://www.birthmotherbaskets.org/content/retreat-information
Blogs

Here are some links to several different blogs that we love! All are written by birth mothers who are at different points in their adoption journeys. They have all been there and have experienced the ups and downs and the emotional rollercoaster that is adoption:

  1. https://racilous.wordpress.com
  2. https://amandamiah.com
  3. http://thebestforyoubook.blogspot.com
  4. http://birthmothers4adoption.blogspot.com/
  5. https://mothertone.wordpress.com
  6. https://mommyhoodland.com
  7. http://choiceanddestination.blogspot.ca
  8. http://thegracebond.com
  9. https://bonafidebirthmother.wordpress.com
  10. http://amstel-life.blogspot.ca
  11. http://annewebberwriting.com
Books
  1. Another Choice: A Compassionate Guide to Placing a Child for Adoption
    Author: Jennifer Bliss & Ann Wrixon
    Description: Another Choice is a step-by-step guide to the entire process of placing a child for adoption. It discusses everything you need to know to ensure that you are making the best decision for yourself and your child, including how to find an ethical and empathic adoption provider, how to talk to the birth father about adoption, and how to find the best adoptive family. Most importantly, the authors discuss the emotional journey of placing a child for adoption, and provide real life examples and quotes from women who have already traveled this path so that you know you are not alone.
  2. Reframing Adoption
    Author: Sharon Fox
    Description: This book is dedicated to reframing the role of a birth mother and is designed to provide support, understanding, and information to grieving birth mothers who have given their child up for adoption so that they may move from an emotional loss to a renewed spirit of hope, joy, peace, and contentment. For a mother to gift her child to another family through adoption is a brave action. All adoptions can be grieved in healthy ways. The grief of birth mothers may be magnified by the little contact with their children and the adoptive parents. No matter how the adoption was structured, the birth mother will grieve her loss. The choice for the child should be either gift or guide-by gifting the child to another family or guiding the child by parenting. This is a new choice that is realistic, healthy, and a blessed decision. Think of adoption as a way to “gift” a child through adoption.
  3. The Girl in the Orange Dress
    Author: Margot Starbuck
    Description: “Chosen.” “Special.” Those are the words Margot Starbuck used to describe herself as a child adopted into a loving family. And when her adoptive parents divorced, her dad moved east, and her mom and dad each got remarried, she told herself that she was extra loved, since she had more than two parents and people in different times zones who cared about her. But the word she really believed about herself was rejected. First by her birth parents. Then by her adoptive father when he moved away. Then by her stepfather. Then by her birth father a second time, when she tried to invite him into her life. Most of all, Margot felt rejected by God the Father, who she also suspected could not be trusted.
  4. God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother
    Author: Amy Seek
    Description: This is a mother’s account of her decision to surrender her son in an open adoption and of their relationship over the twelve years that follow. Facing an unplanned pregnancy at twenty-two, Amy Seek and her ex-boyfriend begin an exhaustive search for a family to raise their child. They sift through hundreds of “Dear Birth Mother” letters, craft an extensive questionnaire, and interview numerous potential couples. Despite the immutability of the surrender, it does little to diminish Seek’s newfound feelings of motherhood. Once an ambitious architecture student, she struggles to reconcile her sadness with the hope that she’s done the best for her son, a struggle complicated by her continued, active presence in his life.

ready to get started?

Tell us how we can help.
Go To Form

Celeste asked me what I was looking for in a family for my baby boy and didn’t stop giving me options until I knew I had found the right couple. She encouraged me to get to know the family and to spend time with my son at the hospital. I was so scared about how it was all going to work, but Celeste kept talking me through it (over and over and over again!) until I finally felt comfortable.

jessica

CONTACT US

Logo Header Menu